Women's Aid Luton

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Need help?

I am worried about someone else

If you’re worried someone you care about might be experiencing domestic abuse, your concern could be a vital first step in helping them get support. Domestic abuse can be hard to see from the outside. Survivors may feel isolated, afraid, or unsure of what to do. You don’t have to have all the answers, just showing you care can make a difference.

Signs someone might be in an abusive relationship

Abuse isn’t always physical. Look out for changes such as:

Withdrawing from friends or family

Seeming anxious, jumpy, or afraid of their partner

Being constantly monitored or not allowed to go out alone

Having visible injuries with unclear explanations

Lacking access to money or important documents

Changes in their child’s behaviour or emotional wellbeing

How you can help safely

Supporting someone in an abusive situation can be difficult, but here are some key steps:

  • Listen without judgement: Let them speak when they’re ready and believe them
  • Don’t pressure them to leave: Leaving can be dangerous and must be done safely
  • Offer practical support: Help with childcare, appointments, or just being there for them
  • Help them plan: Encourage them to Make a Safety Plan
  • Respect their privacy: Never share their situation with others without permission
  • Signpost to help: Share our website, helpline, or support services when the time is right

If you’re a professional

If you’re a GP, social worker, or other frontline professional, we can support you to support them. Contact our helpline or refer them to our services for more tailored guidance.

Get advice on helping someone else

Not sure what to do? Call our confidential helpline on 01582 391 865 for advice on how to support someone else, even if you’re not sure what’s happening.

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