Preparing to leave

If you’re planning to leave, think ahead where possible. It can help to:

• Talk to a support service – they can help you make a plan and talk through your options.
• Keep important documents safe – like ID, passports, benefit letters, and your children’s birth certificates.
• Pack an emergency bag – include clothes, keys, medication, money, and anything else you might need quickly.
• Know where to go – a refuge, a trusted friend or family member, or a safe space. Make sure it’s somewhere the abuser won’t look.
• Use a code word – share it with someone you trust so they know you need help.

If you are in immediate danger, call 999.

What will happen when I leave?

Once you leave, you may feel many different emotions — relief, fear, guilt, or even doubt. This is completely normal.

What you can expect from us:

• A safe space – our refuges are confidential and supportive places to help you recover.
• Support with next steps – like housing, benefits, legal advice, or children’s schooling.
• Time to heal – you’re not expected to have all the answers straight away. Take your time, and take care of your wellbeing.

You’ve already made a brave step. We’re here to help you keep moving forward.